So, you can’t have any conversation about achieving at the highest level, or unlocking your inner BEAST without having a discussion on how your relationships with other people can affect your ability to just be free to be the kind of BEAST that you want to be and achieve what you want to achieve.
So I think we all know that a negative relationship—toxic relationship—can really bring down all of your energy and really keep you from doing and achieving the things that you want to do and achieve.
But I’d like to put out there for you to consider, that you train people how to treat you. That no one—if you’re an adult person—no one can treat you in a way that you don’t want to be treated without you—on some level—giving them the permission to do so.
So I’d like for you to ask yourself—if you are experiencing a less-than-desirable relationship with someone—“what conversation are you avoiding with this person that’s allowing this to continue?” And “Why are you doing that?” And, also ask yourself if it might be out of a fear of losing that relationship.
“Well, if I stand up to this person—if I challenge them about their behavior—they may leave me.” And that fear may be rooted in an illusion of investment that you’ve placed in this relationship.
Let’s consider for a second that you’ve got a relationship that’s lasted 10 years. Okay? And so, you may feel that…“Well, I’ve invested 10 years of my life into this relationship—I can’t just walk away from it.” Or “I can’t do something that may jeopardize that relationship and then they walk away from me.”
But consider this: I mean, is it really an investment? I mean, let’s say you have a return on investment or ROI of ten percent in this relationship. So is that 10 years going to yield you one additional year because you have an ROI of ten percent? I mean now, that’s actually ridiculous because it’s not really an investment—it’s really sunk cost.
So if there’s something about this relationship that’s not serving you and especially if it’s bringing you down, you need to address it. You need to have that hard conversation. And if that person is not mature enough to handle the honesty of that conversation and they leave… That’s their choice. But you have to be strong enough within yourself, and you have to believe and accept the fact that you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. And have that conversation with that person no matter how hard it is.
And there may be some consequences. There may be good consequences—the person may listen and be swayed by your conversation. Or they may not. But either way, you have to address this because there’s absolutely nothing that can rob you of your energy and your power than negativity from a toxic relationship.