Do you have big goals that you want to accomplish? Why haven’t you accomplished them yet? If you’re like me, you may think fear—in one form or another—is holding you back.
You’re afraid of failure. Or maybe you’re afraid of success. You’re afraid of rejection. What will “they” think?
Or at least that’s what I used to think.
I’ve recently come to realize that fear is really not that big of a deal. Don’t believe me? Then let’s walk through this mental exercise, shall we?
Ok, so you’re on top of this really tall building. And there’s another tall building next to the one you’re standing on. Between the two buildings is a rickety plank. It looks something like this:
You can feel the wind blowing and hear it whistling in your ears. Any one of those gusts could knock you off that plank and send you to the pavement below because there is no safety net between you and the ground.
The question is: how do you feel about taking a stroll across that plank?
Ok, now, what if you were offered an incentive to cross that plank? How about $100?
How about $1,000?
I was once in a room of a few hundred people and we were asked to stand if we would walk across that plank. As the dollar amount got higher, a few people stood. The vast majority of us (myself included) stayed seated.
I just couldn’t see myself risking my life for any amount of money. After all, I can only spend it if I survive. One slip…and all the money in the world means nothing.
But now…imagine that on the other side of that plank, someone is dangling your baby over the side of the other building. The only way you can save your baby is to cross that plank.
When we were asked that question not a single person remained seated.
I’m willing to bet if you originally said “no”, your answer quickly changed to “yes”.
What happened to your fear? Did it go away?
No. Fear didn’t go away. It just ceased to matter.
If what’s at stake matters enough…if your WHY is strong enough…fear doesn’t matter. What that ultimately means is…fear never matters. The only thing that matters is your WHY.
Before I found my why, I tried to motivate myself with the promise of money and lifestyle. No matter how many vision boards I made or affirmations I repeated, I still couldn’t manage to get myself off the couch.
After I found my why, I woke up early, stayed up late, and worked consistently until I got my first book published. And I did this all while keeping my full time job, volunteering at my church, and transitioning from part time dad to full time dad. Oh, and I got married that year too.
What happened to the fear? Those thoughts of “what if no one buys my book”, “no one knows who I am”, “I have no credibility”, were still present every step of the way. The thing is…they just didn’t matter.
I had found purpose. I knew I had a message to share with the world and getting that message out became an obsession. Not doing it was not an option.
This kind of purpose and motivation cannot be manufactured. It must be discovered.
The good news is, you already have that kind of motivation within you. Chances are, it’s just buried among the clutter of so many other thoughts.
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