I am very pleased to announce the launch of my first book The Beast Code: 4 Simple Keys to Unlock Motivation That Lasts So You Can Finally Dominate Your Side Hustle. From the time I first put pen to paper with the idea, it took me about a year to get it published. It wasn’t all […]
So, one of my favorite TV shows is “The Office” and I think I own almost every season of “The Office” on DVD. And, I’ve watched the seasons, I’ve watched the extras—I mean, I love that show.
And, one of the characters—if you’re familiar with the show—is Dwight Schrute, and he’s the butt of a lot of jokes in that show. They make a lot of fun of him. The character is played by Rainn Wilson, and he does an excellent job doing that character.
But there’s one thing that that character Dwight did in the show that he got right.
If you’ve ever watched the show and you remember the episode where Dwight is trying to get in the mood for a sales call and he’s sitting in his car listening to this heavy metal music and he’s just rocking out playing air guitar. And I mean, he’s just really getting himself psyched up for this sales meeting.
Well, as it turns out there’s some legitimate brain science that indicates that listening to your favorite music is a therapeutic thing for your brain. So this is something that’s really easy to do and all you have to do is just make playlists of your favorite music, you know, and it’s not anybody else’s favorite music.
There’s not any particular music that’s recommended. I mean, I would have thought that they would recommend Beethoven or Bach or something like that—like classical music. But no, just your favorite music.
So that’s the only criteria you have. Just figure out what are your favorite songs, put them in playlists and listen to them. I mean, that’s it.
So I would urge you to do that. Just get some of your favorite songs—the songs that make you feel good—put them in playlists, listen to them, and then just pay attention to exactly how they make you feel. How do they affect your mood?
And then you can begin to group the songs into, you know, into the different moods that they create in you. And whenever you want to feel a particular way—whenever you need to, you know, to shift your emotional state a certain way—you can play that specific playlist and get that effect that you need to have. I mean, it may be one song or it may be a list of songs.
So this is something you can have fun with. It’s really simple. It’s something I’ve started doing. I’ve got a few playlists that I’m still tweaking and still growing. But I have a lot of fun with it because it’s my favorite music and I get the added benefit of knowing that I’m doing something healthy for my brain and not just listening to my favorite music.
So it’s really a great exercise and something I recommend that you do.
Another thing that I recommend to just kind of keep this on the inexpensive side is to subscribe to some sort of music subscription service—whichever makes sense to you. And that way you have access to a vast array of music and you can have instant access to your favorite songs and you can build those playlists.
So have fun with this. Make sure you listen to your favorite music regularly. You can listen to it daily. I mean, the more you do it, the better it is for you. And, you know, ditch the radio because on the radio they’re just going to play random songs. That’s not going to help your brain. Make playlists. Be intentional about the music that you listen to because it’s important.
You don’t have to use headphones. You can just listen to it however.
But yeah, I think it’s great therapy for your brain. It’s a surprising thing that I found out and I urge you to try it.
Hi! We’re back again talking about how to unlock your Beast and in past videos we talked about how to identify the kind of beast you are and how powerful that is towards propelling you towards the goals—any goal—that you want to achieve in life.
But aside from that you’ve probably heard that it’s good to have a “why” or some main reason why you want to achieve the goals that you want to achieve. I agree that it is very important and we’re going to talk about that because I [know] several other people have had difficulty in identifying and really nailing down their true “why” of why they want to achieve their goals.and it has been very difficult.
Well, in coaching that I’ve received, I’ve been told that your “why”—once you find it—should make you cry. In other words you should have a very strong emotional attachment to why you want to accomplish your goals and not just an intellectual reason.
Also in past videos we’ve talked about the importance of emotions in humans making decisions [and] that’s very true.
So, for a guy like me this was a hard question to answer. It was something that was hard to come up with. But finding it—finding that answer—is really not that difficult once you use a reverse-engineering kind of a process.
So, here’s what I mean. The first thing you want to do—once again—[is] you want to get out a piece of paper or, you know, record what you find. But what you want to do is think about in the past what situations—what experiences have you had that have caused you to cry.
Now this is excluding times of grief and loss. Those are obvious times where you’re going to cry. We’re talking about different situations—like maybe you watched a movie and something in that movie so inspired or so touched you that you shed a tear.
Now for me it’s exactly one tear. I only shed, you know, out of my out of my right eye—it’s one tear. That’s all it is. But, there have been occasions, once I reflected on it, that, you know, I did shed that tear and wrote that down.
One of the things that I can share with you that I identified with is the “The Lion King.” Once I identified I always cry—once again that on tear—when I watch “The Lion King” and that’s whether it’s the movie or even the Broadway presentation.
And the part that always gets me is when Simba is out there in the jungle and he sees this vision of his father up in the sky—Mufasa—and Mufasa tells him “You’ve forgotten me.” And Simba says “No! I could never forget you.” And Mufasa says “No, you’ve forgotten who you are, and so forgotten me. You are my son and the one true king. You must take your place in the circle of life.” And that’s such a powerful scene.
And I had to really dig into [it] and I suggest you do the same thing once you find out what makes you cry.
Try to find some common theme. And out of all the things that caused me to cry, I found this common theme that’s illustrated perfectly in “The Lion King” and it’s this theme of the reluctant hero—this person who has this this great responsibility—this great destiny in their life but their circumstances and their own doubts about who they are cause them to to hide and to shy away from that responsibility. And then they have this this moment—this moment of truth—where they have to make a decision. Either they choose this big destiny, or just forever remain in obscurity and in the shadows.
But the thing about it is, it’s not just about them. There’s a lot of people—a lot of other characters or whatever the case may be—who really depend on this character to step into their destiny. I mean, in “The Lion King”, the entire kingdom was in disarray—you know—overrun by hyenas because of what happened,if you know the story of that movie.
So that exercise—that analysis—made me realize that my true “why” was that I just wanted to matter. I just wanted to fulfill my destiny. I wanted to know that I had done the thing, or that I’m doing the thing that I was put on this earth to do—to affect the lives of the people that I’m supposed to affect in a positive way.
So, that’s what I found out was my “why” of doing my side business pursuits. I mean, I initially started it because I thought I just wanted to secure the income for my family, but when I really got down to the core of it, it was much bigger. it was more of a purpose—transcendent purpose.
So I urge you to get out your pen and paper—get your thinking cap on. Dig a little bit. Nobody else has to see the things that you write down. You don’t have to tell anybody. But go through this exercise and see what you come up with. See if you can’t really get to the core of what your “why” is.
Welcome back. Today we’re going to talk about what you can do to boost—or raise—your sense of self-efficacy, which in past videos I’ve said that [your] sense of self-efficacy is that sense that you’re able to affect the environment or the world around you.
So the way to do that is so simple and really kind of intuitive because the times that you feel the highest sense of self-efficacy is when you’re doing something that you’ve mastered, or doing something that you know that you can—and will—perform at a near perfect level. Right?
All you need to do is think back to all the times that you’ve done something so well that when people noticed it they said “Wow! You nailed it!”, “You crushed it!” or “You killed it!” and capture those times. Write that down on a piece of paper or just speak it into a voice recorder or video yourself—whatever you need to do. Just make sure you write down those times.
The first one, like I said, when you nailed it [or] crushed it—the second thing will be when you would have done something that you got so caught up in that time disappeared, and before you knew it you looked up and hours went by because you just got so engrossed and so engulfed in that activity. So that’s another clue that you’re operating an area that you really have some mastery.
Another thing is when people ask you about certain skills or talents that you have and they constantly ask you “How did you do that” or “How do you do that?” “How do you do what you do?”
So it may take a little bit of thought because these are things that you do so well it’s like second nature to you—you don’t even have to think about it anymore. You may have forgotten that these are actually areas of strength—areas of mastery.
So the next key is—once you identify these things—is to just do them as much as possible so you can experience that feeling as often as possible. The more time you spend doing things [where] you have that sense of mastery, the more you’re going to regularly feel that sense that you can take on any challenge—even if it’s something you’re not as proficient [in].
So we know that if you have big goals in life you’re going to have to learn new things—you’re going to have to face new challenges. I mean after all, if you want to have something you’ve never had, you gotta do something you’ve never done. We’ve probably heard that. You probably know that.
But the mistake that a lot of people make is they shift too much of their focus trying to learn these new skills and pursue these big goals and these new goals—they completely push to the side their areas of mastery because after all, they figure “I’ve already mastered that. I don’t really need to spend any more time doing that. The more time I can focus on learning these new skills, the better.”
But what happens is, there is a law of diminishing returns. Because the more time you spend in trying to acquire these new skills, the more time you’re going to spend having a feeling of inadequacy, doubt or of incompetence. Because that’s how you feel when you begin to learn new skills.
So the key here is to strike that balance and to continue to do pursuits of the new skills that you need to pursue, but spend a good healthy amount of time doing things that you’ve mastered.
And find ways to work that into your overall pursuit. How can you use your mastery and your skills to reach your goals? There’s got to be some way that you can find to use your core and biggest strengths to get you closer to the goal that you want to achieve in the first place.
So that’s the topic of this video and that’s it
So in summary, just dig in, get in touch with what you do well, and make sure you always work into your daily and weekly schedule doing those things that you’ve mastered. Because it’s going to boost that feeling of self-efficacy and it’s going to make a lot of those big goals that you’re trying to achieve seem way more achievable. You’re going to have that feeling that you can take on the world.