Okay, picture this. You’re sitting in a coffee shop across the table from your prospect. You tell her “Hey I’m excited out of my mind about this new business I started. The products are fantastic and the opportunity is once-in-a-lifetime. I know you’re going to join me or at least become a customer.” After your […]
So once you unlock your Inner Beast to pursue those big goals that you’ve got to pursue, you’ve still got to figure out what to do about the everyday tasks and chores that have to get done. I mean you’ve still gotta feed the family, you’ve still gotta clean the house, you’ve still got to do all of those things.
So what you can do to make sure that you take care of what needs to be taken care of and you’re not overrun by the guilt of neglecting all those things is: you can adopt systems.
Well the first thing to do is—if you live with other people—you’ve got kids you’ve got a spouse—whatever… You know, have them pitch in and divide those tasks so that you’re free to pursue the goals that you’ve got. Communicate with them and let them know that this is something that’s important to you and it can be a group effort.
Develop a schedule, you know, so that you know who’s going to do what—who is responsible for what, when.
And I would just like to offer a tip—particularly for preparing meals—something that I’ve recently encountered and it’s called 5dinners1hour.com.
I just stumbled across this thing and it was just the best thing ever because I was always stressed out about how to provide dinner for, you know, for the family—I’m a single dad.1
So what 5 Dinners 1 Hour does is: you can purchase these meal plans for as little as five dollars a month and it will give you a meal plan for five meals per week. And it has the plans, the grocery list, and you can get all the groceries and the prep instructions so that you can prepare ahead of time all of those meals and put them in Ziploc bags, freeze some, put them in the refrigerator… And you can do all the prep work in one hour.
And so after a full day of work I can come home, pull a pre-prepared meal out, cook it, and have a fresh cooked meal for the entire family in 30 minutes or less and it’s been an absolute Godsend. And that’s a system that’s an example of one system that I’ve been able to employ to free up just a whole lot of time to devote to my side business in addition to, you know, a full-time job.
So that’s just a quick tip on how to employ systems to free up more time to pursue your passion.
When I recorded this video, I was a single dad. A few months later, I got married to the love of my life, Valerie. Click here to watch our wedding/music video. I no longer use 5dinners1hour.com. Valerie has taken over most of the meal planning in our household. We do however have everyone pitch in to clean the kitchen. 5dinners1hour is still a great meal plan service and it’s cheap to try and I still recommend it.
So today I’m talking to all of my people who’ve got a really big heart… and you’ve got a huge mission to heal and save and serve the world… and you just know with all of your heart that you’ve got something to give and share… and that can benefit everyone in the whole world… and you’re out to deliver this service to everyone… and you’re so passionate about it… and that you know you can help everyone if they would just if they would just listen… if they would just see the benefit of what it is that you do…
And the problem that you’re running into is that you’re running yourself ragged… chasing people down and an arguing with them… and trying to convince them to just love themselves and to take care of themselves and to care about themselves the way you do…
And so the problem with that is that the more you spend time trying to convince people who are quite honestly not ready—they’re just not ready for what you can provide—you’re taking time away because your time—you’re only one person—your time is limited. You’re taking time away from those people who not only can benefit from your service, but they’re ready—they’re ready right now.
And you can’t connect with these people. You can’t find them and you can’t serve them, because all of your time is tied up from doing other things besides what your true mission is, and your true mission is to serve.
So take some time, my big-hearted kind people. Take some time to figure out who your ideal client is because there are some people who are simply not qualified for your service.
Now before you get on the defensive and start defending these people, keep in mind i’m not saying that these are bad people or that they are unworthy people. I’m simply saying they are not qualified for the service that you provide. And part of that qualification means that they have to recognize the value of what you do. And if they don’t see that value yet, or they don’t value what it can do for them, then they’re just not a perfect match—they’re not as good of a fit for what you do.
So take some time—I would urge you to take some time to come up with a list or some sort of idea or profile for what your ideal customer looks like. And so instead of trying to convince people of the benefits that you can provide them, interview people try to find out where they are. What is it—what level of service they might qualify for—or if they even qualify for what you do.
And what you’ll begin to do is you’ll begin to get more of those ideal clients because you know what you’re looking for and you’re interviewing instead of chasing. And your time is free now to work with the people who really deserve—or who really qualify for what you do, and not just the people who need what you do. There’s a difference. Because just because somebody needs you doesn’t mean that you should be working with them—especially if they are not ready to see that they need you.
So, all my big-hearted and kind people who want to save the world… Please take heed to this and be more selective about who you work with because ultimately if you put people through a qualification process, you’re going to free yourself up to work with the best clients and that’s going to be better for you.
But you’re going to really be able to help more people because you don’t help anyone by just trying to convince them of something that they ultimately don’t do anyway, and then take away time from people who are ready to go but you can’t reach him because you’re busy.
So please consider this advice and…love you.
So, you can’t have any conversation about achieving at the highest level, or unlocking your inner BEAST without having a discussion on how your relationships with other people can affect your ability to just be free to be the kind of BEAST that you want to be and achieve what you want to achieve.
So I think we all know that a negative relationship—toxic relationship—can really bring down all of your energy and really keep you from doing and achieving the things that you want to do and achieve.
But I’d like to put out there for you to consider, that you train people how to treat you. That no one—if you’re an adult person—no one can treat you in a way that you don’t want to be treated without you—on some level—giving them the permission to do so.
So I’d like for you to ask yourself—if you are experiencing a less-than-desirable relationship with someone—“what conversation are you avoiding with this person that’s allowing this to continue?” And “Why are you doing that?” And, also ask yourself if it might be out of a fear of losing that relationship.
“Well, if I stand up to this person—if I challenge them about their behavior—they may leave me.” And that fear may be rooted in an illusion of investment that you’ve placed in this relationship.
Let’s consider for a second that you’ve got a relationship that’s lasted 10 years. Okay? And so, you may feel that…“Well, I’ve invested 10 years of my life into this relationship—I can’t just walk away from it.” Or “I can’t do something that may jeopardize that relationship and then they walk away from me.”
But consider this: I mean, is it really an investment? I mean, let’s say you have a return on investment or ROI of ten percent in this relationship. So is that 10 years going to yield you one additional year because you have an ROI of ten percent? I mean now, that’s actually ridiculous because it’s not really an investment—it’s really sunk cost.
So if there’s something about this relationship that’s not serving you and especially if it’s bringing you down, you need to address it. You need to have that hard conversation. And if that person is not mature enough to handle the honesty of that conversation and they leave… That’s their choice. But you have to be strong enough within yourself, and you have to believe and accept the fact that you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. And have that conversation with that person no matter how hard it is.
And there may be some consequences. There may be good consequences—the person may listen and be swayed by your conversation. Or they may not. But either way, you have to address this because there’s absolutely nothing that can rob you of your energy and your power than negativity from a toxic relationship.